No one likes having problems in life. We like things to be easy; ’tis human nature. Obstacles are inconvenient, terrifying, and seem like they serve no purpose other than to slow our perfect life flow down. Ya, no… “Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny.” ~C.S. Lewis You need problems to fully develop and learn as a human. They are essential for living a good life, even if they bring temporary discomfort. Rather that victimize yourself with the

The ego identity is a tricky concept for many to grasp. Should we kill it? Is the ego truly our enemy? Well, not unless we want to lose all sense of self. As humans we have a nasty tendency of clinging to black and white thinking, which is an incomplete understanding of who we are as complete beings. There are a lot of grey and flexible areas within the constructs of our minds. The ego is our concept of self. It isn’t who we actually are, it is who we think we are. It develop

Why do we judge? Simply, because it helps us avoid looking inward. It’s an ego defense mechanism and is often deeply rooted in shame. We judge people because we have unconscious beliefs about their actions. We see those actions as shameful, naughty, bad, etc. Once we are aware of why we are judging, we can start to separate ourselves from the judging. This isn’t saying you’ll ever escape judging others or escaped being judged; it is saying that we can start operating from our

Let’s talk about self victimization! It’s timely to bring this topic up because when the world is falling apart, people generally fall into two groups: those that self-victimize and those that take responsibility for their lives. Most people know what a “victim” is — someone who has been injured, insulted, or cheated. It’s completely normal to acknowledge and feel sad or angry about being a victim. We’ve all been victims of something countless times! The issue is when you liv

𝗪𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮; 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗼𝗳 𝘂𝘀.⁣ ⁣ But, how many of you have pulled away from friends, family, or loved ones thinking that you need to be on your own to 𝘧𝘪𝘹 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘵?⁣ ⁣ How many of you have decided that you can’t put yourself out there and be with another human until you are 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵?⁣ ⁣ 𝗡𝗲𝘄𝘀 𝗳𝗹𝗮𝘀𝗵! Becoming intimately familiar with our own and our 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳’𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 is a profound gift and

𝗜𝗳 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗱𝗿𝗼𝘄𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴, 𝘄𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗷𝘂𝗺𝗽 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝗰𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗰𝗼𝘂𝗹𝗱𝗻’𝘁 𝘀𝘄𝗶𝗺?⁣ ⁣ We all have been in that position before, 𝘸𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘷𝘦𝘴. If you keep sacrificing, then eventually there won’t be anything left of you to give. ⁣ ⁣ 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗯𝗲 𝗿𝘂𝗶𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗹𝗹 𝗯𝘂𝗶�

Trauma is a 𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩, and we all just wish it would go away. It’s a subject that many of us don’t fully understand which leads to misappropriate labeling and expression of our behaviors. Once we understand what and how it’s impacting our lives, we can start to untangle it from our habits. ⁣ ⁣ Trauma is stored in our implicit memory, or subconscious memory, where it is able to show up in our thoughts and life without us consciously knowing it. This is different from our expl

𝘈𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘮𝘦 — who tends to swing from reckless to zen as fuck, depending on the total load of stress? Do you tend to fall into a pattern

People often misinterpret my confidence as arrogance. My selfies as attention seeking. My style as too bold. This doesn't stop me from being me. Why? Do I not care about others? Absolutely not the case at all. I love all people. I just don't believe their ideas and value system should direct my behavior. I would feel resentful towards them and it wouldn't be their fault whatsoever. It's MY choice to change to fit their mold. I authentically love who I am. I don't feel I need

You probably have impulse control issues. You probably crave all the foods that keep you from your goal body. You probably do things that make you think you have no control. To what extent you do these things… well that varies from person to person. Let’s discuss some of our brain structures and how they play into our uncontrollable desires and our habit formation. As we have evolved, so have our brain structures. We have a little part of our brain called the primitive brain

We all make mistakes, have struggles and do stupid shit occasionally. We are NOT our fuck ups. We are NOT our struggles. We are NOT our bad decisions. If you’re reading this — you are alive, and can learn from all of these experiences no matter how fucked they were. Life is a series of unfortunate events — each one of which makes us wiser, and accumulate data to better navigate the future. For these experiences develop character. We must learn that the setbacks in life and gr

We all see only that which we are trained to see. One of the most pertinent dilemmas with the humans that inhabit the earth today, is that we have large subsets of people who will accept whatever they hear, just because it suits their worldview— not because it is actually true, or because they have evidence to support it, but rather that people prefer reassurance to research. One of the views that is so perplexing to me is that it is a widely held belief that you cannot view