People like to play into the victim role with everything in life. Including in curating their happiness. Your boss is impossible to please, your wife is a bitch, and your teenage son doesn’t listen to to a word you say. Everyone else makes it impossible for you to be happy! But hey, check this; happiness isn’t ready made, it is a direct result of your actions and beliefs. I had years where I chased other humans approval and validation. If they didn’t think I was a worth while
People often misinterpret my confidence as arrogance. My selfies as attention seeking. My style as too bold. This doesn't stop me from being me. Why? Do I not care about others? Absolutely not the case at all. I love all people. I just don't believe their ideas and value system should direct my behavior. I would feel resentful towards them and it wouldn't be their fault whatsoever. It's MY choice to change to fit their mold. I authentically love who I am. I don't feel I need
Cravings. The bane of everyones dieting. This force comes over you and pushes you to shove all pleasurable things in your mouth. Craving defined: an intense, urgent, or abnormal desire or longing. Ask anyone what foods they crave, and most people will be able to list off at least a couple without hesitation. Ask them while they are dieting and due to our natural preoccupation with food, and heightened anxiety during these phases, we will be able to spit them out more quickly.
I sometimes fall into the trap of thinking that my perception of a situation is reality for everyone. Faulty information and past life experiences jade my mind sometimes. I am human. Realizing that this occurs is the first step in correcting it. Once we become aware we can shift our thoughts to looking at everything objectively and without attachment. So how do we do this? Numero uno; we need to untangle where our perceptions originate. They are primarily formed via our signi
I’m sure you all have heard the “everything in moderation” advice regurgitated by all the gurus — and most likely your grandmother. But just because everyone spouts it off — doesn't’ mean it’s true, or even a helpful use of words. It does appear on the surface to be wise advice because anything extreme is crazy, right? But get this — this entire concept could be the very reason you can’t maintain or lose weight. Moderation is an interesting idea in theory. The amount of peopl
It is human nature to judge — this my friends is an undeniable fact. We do this to gauge our own behaviors, assign value, and determine our social status. It's quite the evolutionary advantage to be able to identify humans who are fierce, strong, and healthy. This helps us decide which are the best mates to procreate with. So judgments are indeed a fact of a normal human experience. We have these deep instinctual drives but we have evolved past the need to just survive and ma
Do you get upset over the little shit, that really means nothing in the big scheme of things. The solution is pausing, taking a step back to look at the situation, and then deciding how you want to respond instead of reacting emotionally. We all tend to jump to conclusions based on our unique experiences, it’s akin to a reflex— something that happens automatically without thought. It’s a lazy way to make conversation and bond with people and I’m totally guilty of this. RAFT i
We all see only that which we are trained to see. One of the most pertinent dilemmas with the humans that inhabit the earth today, is that we have large subsets of people who will accept whatever they hear, just because it suits their worldview— not because it is actually true, or because they have evidence to support it, but rather that people prefer reassurance to research. One of the views that is so perplexing to me is that it is a widely held belief that you cannot view