Do you often predict the worst, talk down to yourself, and take a pessimistic outlook on life? You need to understand that you cannot believe every negative thought that goes through that 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘺 𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘭𝘦 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴. We tend to believe our thoughts whether they are true or not — simply because that beautiful 𝘯𝘦𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘣𝘪𝘢𝘴 wired in and the fact that we never check ourselves to examine if our thoughts are rational, logical, or true.
Working from yesterdays post on cognitive distortions and that denial loop we get stuck in. Denial lives in our shadow self. What is that? The shadow is the side of your personality that contains all the parts of yourself that you are embarrassed to have or reject. It camps out in our subconscious. It is only through intentional self introspection that it comes to light. Some examples of how this manifests in our life: Know it alls are usually hiding insecurities about their
Giving someone else the power to shift your mood, will never lead to happiness. This has been my mantra the last few days as there has been some extremely hurtful words come at me from my past toxic relationships. Pair that with keyboard warriors that perpetually victimize themselves and I need a wall of post it note mantras in my house to keep myself in check. When someone exhibits destructive, derogatory or otherwise uncaring behavior — they are usually acting out from some
Stress. It’s killing you… Or so you think… Check this. Stress is caused by giving a fuck. It is caused by something you really care about. If you didn’t care, it would be a non issue. This is a good thing. This is what gives life meaning. If we didn’t care about anything or anyone then what is the point of existence? So I encourage you to change your perception of stress from being something to run from and something that is all ‘bad’ — to one of radical acceptance of what is