Let’s talk about self victimization! It’s timely to bring this topic up because when the world is falling apart, people generally fall into two groups: those that self-victimize and those that take responsibility for their lives. Most people know what a “victim” is — someone who has been injured, insulted, or cheated. It’s completely normal to acknowledge and feel sad or angry about being a victim. We’ve all been victims of something countless times! The issue is when you liv

What controls your successes and failures? Those with a strong internal locus of control believe that things in their life happen primarily because of their own actions. Those with a strong external locus of control tend to blame or praise external factors for what happens to them. The goal is to start shifting your sense of control to be internal rather than external. Rather than thinking most things are not within your control, that there is nothing you can do about your fu

Every person has five kinds of energy: Physical Mental Emotional Spiritual Financial We often only think of the financial aspect in the terms of cost, budgeting, and saving. It is essential that you reframe all of these as sources of energy in your mind so you can learn to manage them like your money. Most people never think about how they spend their energy, and at the end of the day they hit a wall. They have no energy left to do the things that light their soul on fire. On

We all make mistakes, have struggles and do stupid shit occasionally. We are NOT our fuck ups. We are NOT our struggles. We are NOT our bad decisions. If you’re reading this — you are alive, and can learn from all of these experiences no matter how fucked they were. Life is a series of unfortunate events — each one of which makes us wiser, and accumulate data to better navigate the future. For these experiences develop character. We must learn that the setbacks in life and gr

It is human nature to judge — this my friends is an undeniable fact. We do this to gauge our own behaviors, assign value, and determine our social status. It's quite the evolutionary advantage to be able to identify humans who are fierce, strong, and healthy. This helps us decide which are the best mates to procreate with. So judgments are indeed a fact of a normal human experience. We have these deep instinctual drives but we have evolved past the need to just survive and ma

We’ve all experienced friendships, relationships, or familial break ups. It’s fucking hard. The rollercoaster of emotions and thoughts aren’t for the faint of heart. This becomes extremely difficult if you’re the one holding your dignity, while the other party is throwing metaphorical daggers at you. I often have the thoughts; When will this ever end? Why couldn’t I have just had a normal parting of ways without so much collateral damage? Am I that hard of a person to love? W