We’ve all worn masks to hide our true selves. It’s an evolutionary drive to desire belonging to groups and tribes, so it’s perfectly normal to try and “fake it” as a means of earning acceptance by the masses. That’s why many are shocked when someone steps outside of this paradigm and wears their true self exposed. But what exactly is the best option of navigating life? Manipulating others via acting in a way they want you to, or just doing you and letting your life long suppo
Everyone has an ability to “mentalize”, meaning the ability to understand the mental state, of oneself or others, that underlies overt behaviors. When we lose our shit on someone, we lose our metalizing ability, and we start to operate in black-and-white thinking. It’s completely normal, but it greatly impairs your ability to reason and problem-solve. You start thinking that your opinion and subjective experience is a correct interpretation of reality, rather than appreciatin
𝐋𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐨𝐫𝐲 Labeling theory states that 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘺 and 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘴 is influenced by the terms used to describe or classify them. It’s in the same social bubble as 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐲 and 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐨𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠. If you give yourself or other labels, then you and others start to 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺 mold into those labels. For example, victimizing yourself! When you
Trauma is a 𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩, and we all just wish it would go away. It’s a subject that many of us don’t fully understand which leads to misappropriate labeling and expression of our behaviors. Once we understand what and how it’s impacting our lives, we can start to untangle it from our habits. Trauma is stored in our implicit memory, or subconscious memory, where it is able to show up in our thoughts and life without us consciously knowing it. This is different from our expl
You probably have impulse control issues. You probably crave all the foods that keep you from your goal body. You probably do things that make you think you have no control. To what extent you do these things… well that varies from person to person. Let’s discuss some of our brain structures and how they play into our uncontrollable desires and our habit formation. As we have evolved, so have our brain structures. We have a little part of our brain called the primitive brain
As requested here — I am laying out my routines for everyone.
I follow a strict routine for 99% of my mornings and nights. Yes, I have been called a robot my entire life. I’m okay with this.
Why do I do this and recommend most of my clients adopt similar behaviors?
Time management and intentions.
It's not to be OCD or eccentric. There is a method to my madness.
I want to reduce friction and set my intentions for the day. I do this simply so I can focus on what is a