We’ve all worn masks to hide our true selves. It’s an evolutionary drive to desire belonging to groups and tribes, so it’s perfectly normal to try and “fake it” as a means of earning acceptance by the masses. That’s why many are shocked when someone steps outside of this paradigm and wears their true self exposed. But what exactly is the best option of navigating life? Manipulating others via acting in a way they want you to, or just doing you and letting your life long suppo
Everyone has an ability to “mentalize”, meaning the ability to understand the mental state, of oneself or others, that underlies overt behaviors. When we lose our shit on someone, we lose our metalizing ability, and we start to operate in black-and-white thinking. It’s completely normal, but it greatly impairs your ability to reason and problem-solve. You start thinking that your opinion and subjective experience is a correct interpretation of reality, rather than appreciatin
Nobody likes people that are passive aggressive because it’s wastes everyone’s time and is a shady way around being honest. We hit on the downfalls of being passive in yesterdays video, but wanted to help point out ways you can recognize passivity in yourself and others. Back-handed compliments. This is the most stereotypical type of passive-aggressiveness. It’s when you can’t simply be happy for another’s success, so you try to take them down a peg with sarcasm. Unfriendly s
𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝! Our minds have routines and habits and perceptions that make changing your behaviors and beliefs hard as fuck. If you engage on the journey of change, then you need to be aware of your mind’s ways to sabotage your efforts: 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲, 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧. When we decide it’s time to step up to the plate and shift our self sabotaging behaviors, the mind will fabricate all sorts of self doubt, anxiety, and confusion.
𝐋𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐨𝐫𝐲 Labeling theory states that 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘺 and 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘴 is influenced by the terms used to describe or classify them. It’s in the same social bubble as 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐲 and 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐨𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠. If you give yourself or other labels, then you and others start to 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺 mold into those labels. For example, victimizing yourself! When you
𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐰𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐢𝐬𝐦 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐦𝐲𝐭𝐡? 𝐕𝐢𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 —> The action or practice of publicly expressing opinions or sentiments intended to demonstrate one’s good character or moral correctness of the position on a particular issue. 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐠𝐨. 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐢𝐭! When you virtue signal or talk about all the 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴 you do, it is purely as a means of satisfying your
Trauma is a 𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩, and we all just wish it would go away. It’s a subject that many of us don’t fully understand which leads to misappropriate labeling and expression of our behaviors. Once we understand what and how it’s impacting our lives, we can start to untangle it from our habits. Trauma is stored in our implicit memory, or subconscious memory, where it is able to show up in our thoughts and life without us consciously knowing it. This is different from our expl
You probably have impulse control issues. You probably crave all the foods that keep you from your goal body. You probably do things that make you think you have no control. To what extent you do these things… well that varies from person to person. Let’s discuss some of our brain structures and how they play into our uncontrollable desires and our habit formation. As we have evolved, so have our brain structures. We have a little part of our brain called the primitive brain