Why People Offend Us: Spoiler, They Don't
The key point about being offended: it’s exclusively a function of your inner world and has nothing to do with the person offending you. People say and do infinitely many things, but only some individuals will find each of those things offensive. The issue isn’t the offender, the issue is the offended. For example, we both come from a background of disordered eating and body dysmorphia that leads us to take offense to being called fat. Even when we know that we are not fat, i