Codependency is a learned behavior of seeking love and validation based on feelings of insecurity or inadequacy. It’s an unconscious belief that if you give enough love and “yes” answers that you will earn their love. It is a fallacious thought pattern because it encourages blurry boundaries and relentless sacrifice of our own needs + desires. When you are codependent, you forget about your own needs and desires. You shift your focus externally and instead rely on your partne

We all have boundaries, but sometimes we forget to communicate them. When that happens, we can feel overwhelmed when those boundaries are crossed. But you can’t really expect others to know what your boundaries were if you never told them! Here are four common boundaries many people forget to establish: You let others vent about their problems without telling them you can’t handle the emotional burden. You never say no. It can be hard for those of you who are people pleasers,

We all experience strong emotions from time to time. Many of us impulsively push them away. Hey there my fellow avoidant types! We push as hard as we can against a perceived force of resistance. It brings us a false sense of security. Why feel uncomfortable emotions if we don’t have to? But check this… this is only a short term solution. What we avoid always comes raging back at some point or another. Short term fixes are elusive and persuasive. I have a habit of wanting to a

It’s important to understand your partners needs, but having the talks that illuminate these needs can be uncomfortable. There’s no getting around that. Here’s six truths that we believe you should learn about one another to maximize long-term happiness. First, determine your attachment styles. It’s a great way to better understand and navigate your securities and insecurities in the relationship. Second, talk about childhood and relationship trauma. Everyone subconsciously r

If you are truly monogamous, you can’t check out other people. How does that statement make you feel? We came across that on Twitter and just had to do a video on it because it’s absurd. Let’s take it to the extreme: cheating would be watching a movie with your spouse because of the attractive actors and actresses. Surely this illustrates how ridiculous this view of monogamy is. Appreciating beauty and being attracted to other humans is normal and an innate biological aspect

Ever pondered how strong your relationship is? Will it crack with a minor slight? Well, check this, you can directly assess the strength of your relationship with this one question: How safe do you feel opening up to your partner? It’s a pretty important question because how safe you feel opening up to your partner and expressing your true authentic self is a great indicator of how strong your relationship is. Those fears we have about being authentic — fears of rejection, st

Nobody likes people that are passive aggressive because it’s wastes everyone’s time and is a shady way around being honest. We hit on the downfalls of being passive in yesterdays video, but wanted to help point out ways you can recognize passivity in yourself and others. Back-handed compliments. This is the most stereotypical type of passive-aggressiveness. It’s when you can’t simply be happy for another’s success, so you try to take them down a peg with sarcasm. Unfriendly s

Everyone behaves poorly in relationships every now and again. It’s normal and generally not an issue. If certain behaviors persist for a while, however, things can start to take a turn for the worst. So, to help bring awareness to your relationship habits, here’s 4 things that you should stop doing: 1.) Too much criticism. Stop being nitpicky and criticizing your partner over every little thing they do wrong. It’s not worth the time or energy and just serves to strain the rel

Keep your eyes on these 5 red flags that your relationship is unhealthy. 1.) Your expectations are different. It’s normal to have differing beliefs in life, but if those differences exist in big issues like religion, politics, or your child’s education, then you’re probably not a good match. These types of differences in beliefs are a recipe for long-term arguments and fights. 2.) Your expectations are ridiculous. You cannot control other people and having such expectations i

That right there is how an addiction to love manifests. We will do anything to get that hit, just like a strung out junkie.

The person portrays a mask of arrogant superiority in an attempt to convince everyone that they are a 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘧𝘭𝘢𝘬𝘦.