Love or Neurochemical Addiction?
You can’t eat, you can’t sleep, and all you can think about is your 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘧𝘪𝘹. Our search for love and approval stems from a fundamental human desire to avoid self rejection. 𝗪𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗼 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗯𝘆 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗮𝗹 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗱𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗵𝘂𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘀. It's innate but can cross over into 𝘥𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘧𝘶𝘤𝘬𝘦𝘳𝘺 quicklike. You know that never ending search for the Cinderella love story that doesn't exist. That right there is how an addiction to love manifests. We will do anything to get that hit, just like a strung out junkie. We will go to great lengths and make unspeakable sacrifices to get that approval and feel the safety of a relationship. We put up with insanity from ourselves and our lover.
Love is a drug at a neurochemical level, being 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘶𝘳𝘨𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘰𝘱𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘦, 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘰𝘵𝘰𝘯𝘪𝘯, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘹𝘺𝘵𝘰𝘤𝘪𝘯. It’s an amazing feeling, but it can also be a double-sided one. Why? Because that love can trap you into unhealthy relationships. Love can make you do stupid shit to maintain that high. Separation and doing what is truly needed for your growth and happiness feels horrible as you go through withdrawal from the 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘥𝘳𝘶𝘨.
During this period of withdrawal, doing regular exercise, being patient (time heals all wounds), and talking to close friends can help balance your mood state and make coping with the love withdrawal much easier.