Expressing Boundaries When Feeling Attacked
Updated: Apr 1
Have you ever had an argument where you felt the other individual is just dominating the entire interaction? I know I have...
You may not realize it, but you 𝗖𝗔𝗡 set boundaries during conflict. These can help let your partner or friend know that you are starting to become overwhelmed or that things are becoming too intense in the moment.
You can ask them to communicate their message differently.
You can ask them to bring their tone down if they are yelling or too excited.
You can ask them to pause and take a moment to hold hands or hug — to spend a moment letting go and just loving each other.
You can ask them to validate your perspective on the situation.
You can take a 20–30 minute break and revisit the situation later if all else fails.
Keep in mind that both people need to be 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘴 in order for this to work.
If someone superimposes themselves on your boundaries after you have communicated them, then you need to take care of yourself first and foremost.
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