The holiday seasons are traditionally a time of family gatherings and gift giving, especially Christmas. I don’t know about you, but for me the price someone pays when they get me a gift is the least of my concern. What I really take note of is how the giver has chosen what to gift to me. Did they remember something I said in passing? Did they consider a problem I have and attempt to aide in the solution? Did they choose the gift based off of my interests and dreams?
If you’re looking for a way to show up for a loved one this year without breaking the bank, learning their love language can be a way to show them you really see them and their needs. There are five love languages that were first introduced in the early by Gary Chapman. You can take the quiz here.
You can best show your partner or family that you care by appealing to their love language.
Here are some ideas that may be helpful!
Gifts: If your partner’s love language is gifts, then you can show them you truly care by taking time to listen to the things that they want and getting those gifts for them. People who experience love through gifts don’t necessarily care what the gift is in terms of materialism; they care about the fact that you went out and got something for them.
Acts of service: If your partner’s love language is acts of service, then you can show them you truly care by doing things for them. Perhaps there are chores that they commonly perform that you could do instead. Don’t ask them, just do it. They experience love through the thoughtfulness of you doing things for them.
Quality time: If your partner’s love language is quality time, then you can show them you truly care by doing things with them. Consider booking a night out with them, doing their favorite activity, or even just helping out with chores. Being present with them is how they experience love.
Physical touch: If your partner’s love language is physical touch, then you can show them you truly care by kissing, hugging, and cuddling them. Even just holding hands or putting a hand on their shoulder lets the person know you are present for them.
Words of affirmation: If your partner’s love language is words of affirmation, then you can show them you truly care by telling them about it. They know they are cared for when you tell them you love them, that you appreciate them, and when you compliment them.
We all have one dominant love language, but we can experience them all. So consider doing more than one this holiday season and remind your partner that you care about them.
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