How To Embrace Your Inner Darkness: Your Shadow Self
Updated: Apr 22, 2020
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๐๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ข๐ต๐ฉ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ฐ๐ค๐ช๐ข๐ญ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ด๐ฌ ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐บ ๐ฅ๐ข๐บ, ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ข ๐ฉ๐ช๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ด๐ฉ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ด๐ช๐ฅ๐ฆ: ๐ข๐ฏ ๐ช๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ญ๐ด๐ช๐ท๐ฆ, ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฅ, ๐ด๐ข๐ฅ, ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ช๐ด๐ฐ๐ญ๐ข๐ต๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ฑ๐ข๐ณ๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐บ ๐ต๐ณ๐บ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ช๐จ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ. ๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ค๐ข๐ฏ ๐ฃ๐ฆ ๐ข ๐ด๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ค๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ ๐ณ๐ช๐ค๐ฉ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ท๐ช๐ต๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐บ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ค๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐จ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ต ๐ค๐ข๐ฏ ๐ฃ๐ฆ ๐ข ๐ฑ๐ข๐ต๐ฉ๐ธ๐ข๐บ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ฏ ๐ข๐ถ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต๐ช๐ค ๐ญ๐ช๐ง๐ฆ. ~ C. Zweig & S. Wolfโฃ
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Shadow self is an archetype we formulate when we are integrating our subconscious programming in our formative years. ๐๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ญ ๐จ๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ซ๐๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐๐ฌ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ข๐ซ๐๐ฌ, ๐ฐ๐๐๐ค๐ง๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐๐ฌ, ๐ข๐๐๐๐ฌ, ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐๐ญ๐ฌ, ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ, ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ. This archetype is often described as ๐ฏ๐ข๐ถ๐จ๐ฉ๐ต๐บ, ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ท๐ช๐ฐ๐ถ๐ด, ๐ธ๐ช๐ญ๐ฅ, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ค๐ฉ๐ข๐ฐ๐ต๐ช๐ค โ by those who practice religion and the such. You see it. I see it. We are indoctrinated to go towards the light and repress the dark within us. It completely ๐ง๐ถ๐ค๐ฌ๐ด us and conditions us to not accept the entirety of what we are as humans. โฃ
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We are all born blank canvases and I often refer to my life as my work of art working with this idea. As a child, our minds are extremely malleable and we adopt our knowledge base that helps us separate good and evil. โฃ
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The very moment we are told we are naughty or good is when our insides are ripped to shreds. ๐๐ฆ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ธ๐ฐ. Social cues further indoctrinate us into two selves, the persona (๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ญ๐ฅ), and the shadow (๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ฑ๐ข๐ณ๐ต๐ด ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ด๐ฉ๐ข๐ฎ๐ฆ ๐ข๐ณ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ฅ). โฃ
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So, how the hell do we see this ๐ฌ๐ก๐๐๐จ๐ฐ? We must utilize other people as mirrors to help us decipher our masks. Your shadow self is the part of yourself that you dislike and project onto others.

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๐๐๐ญ ๐ฆ๐ ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ: โฃ
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Know it alls are usually hiding insecurities about their lack of knowledge. If you canโt stand thinking of yourself as ignorant, then youโre going to have a stronger visceral dislike when others portray ignorance or misunderstanding. Itโs not that they did anything worthy of that judgement, itโs that you are projecting your shadow onto them.โฃ
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Tough girls and boys are hiding their sensitivity. Hello friends. Everyone has painted me as hard as fuck. Why do I often get painted that way? Because itโs an ego defense mechanism I have deep rooted to protect my overly, detrimentally so, sensitive empathetic soul. โฃ
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Excessive humor covers up peoples sadness. โฃ
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Perpetual starvation is to cover up the idea that you wonโt be good enough unless you reach perfection. โฃ
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Binge eating is often a facade utilized for covering up lack of self care and nourishment in other areas. โฃ

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Bottom line is if youโre truly seeking fulfillment and dismissal of bad โ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ด๐ข๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ต๐ข๐จ๐ช๐ฏ๐จโ behavioral patterns then you will need to accept that you have parts of yourself that make you feel unwell examining and disturbing to accept. โฃ
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These shameful and frightening aspects of ourselves are elements of our shadow selves. The โ๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ฌโ side friends. ๐๐จ ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐ซ๐๐ ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ. The more we repress it the more it will bubble up into resentment and projection. โฃ
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Reading self-help books to improve yourself wonโt help if you donโt put in the damn work. The best way to put in the work is to understand your shadow self and identify when you are projecting it onto others. ๐๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐๐๐ง ๐๐ ๐ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ญ ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐๐ฅ๐ฉ ๐๐ฎ๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐๐ง๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ฌ ๐๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.โฃ
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It is completely understandable that in order to become a civilized human requires an element of repression that fits into our structured societal idealโฆ ๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐๐ก๐๐๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ; if we learn to live fractionated lives we will always be pissed and envious of others. Ignoring our needs and desires does nothing for our mental health. โฃ
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Self love and living authentically requires you to accept and embrace these โdarkโ desires. How do you expect to live a life of acceptance and love of who you are if you reject these parts? Spoiler: ๐๐๐ ๐ช๐๐๐. โฃ
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๐๐ต ๐ช๐ด ๐ข ๐ง๐ณ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐จ๐ฉ๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ ๐ข๐ญ๐ด๐ฐ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ด ๐ข ๐ด๐ฉ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ธ ๐ด๐ช๐ฅ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฉ๐ช๐ฎ, ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด๐ช๐ด๐ต๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ซ๐ถ๐ด๐ต ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ญ๐ช๐ต๐ต๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ธ๐ฆ๐ข๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด๐ฆ๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ง๐ฐ๐ช๐ฃ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ด, ๐ฃ๐ถ๐ต ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ข ๐ฑ๐ฐ๐ด๐ช๐ต๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ญ๐บ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ช๐ค ๐ฅ๐บ๐ฏ๐ข๐ฎ๐ช๐ด๐ฎ. ๐๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฅ๐ถ๐ข๐ญ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ฐ๐ฎ ๐ฌ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ด; ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฉ๐ช๐ฎ, ๐ข๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ ๐ช๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฅ๐ถ๐ข๐ญ, ๐ช๐ต ๐ช๐ด ๐ช๐ฏ๐ค๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐ช๐ฃ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ ๐ค๐ช๐ณ๐ค๐ถ๐ฎ๐ด๐ต๐ข๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ๐ด ๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฃ๐ฆ๐บ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ช๐ฎ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง. ๐๐ถ๐ต ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ต ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ด๐ฆ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ณ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ด๐ด ๐ค๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ต๐ถ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฎ ๐ข ๐ฎ๐ข๐ด๐ด, ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ณ๐จ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ข ๐ณ๐ข๐จ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ. ~ Carl Jung
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