• Briana Theroux

How To Embrace Your Inner Darkness: Your Shadow Self

Updated: Apr 22


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๐˜‰๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฉ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ฌ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ณ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜บ, ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ: ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ฑ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ, ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ณ๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ. ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜š๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜บ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜จ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ค๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜บ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ถ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ค ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ง๐˜ฆ. ~ C. Zweig & S. Wolfโฃ

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Shadow self is an archetype we formulate when we are integrating our subconscious programming in our formative years. ๐“๐ก๐ž ๐ฉ๐š๐ซ๐ญ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฉ๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ ๐๐ž๐ฌ๐ข๐ซ๐ž๐ฌ, ๐ฐ๐ž๐š๐ค๐ง๐ž๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ž๐ฌ, ๐ข๐๐ž๐š๐ฌ, ๐ข๐ง๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐œ๐ญ๐ฌ, ๐ฉ๐ž๐ซ๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ, ๐š๐ง๐ ๐Ÿ๐ž๐š๐ซ๐ฌ. This archetype is often described as ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต๐˜บ, ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ด, ๐˜ธ๐˜ช๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ค๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ค โ€” by those who practice religion and the such. You see it. I see it. We are indoctrinated to go towards the light and repress the dark within us. It completely ๐˜ง๐˜ถ๐˜ค๐˜ฌ๐˜ด us and conditions us to not accept the entirety of what we are as humans. โฃ

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We are all born blank canvases and I often refer to my life as my work of art working with this idea. As a child, our minds are extremely malleable and we adopt our knowledge base that helps us separate good and evil. โฃ

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The very moment we are told we are naughty or good is when our insides are ripped to shreds. ๐˜ž๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ. Social cues further indoctrinate us into two selves, the persona (๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ), and the shadow (๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฑ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ). โฃ

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So, how the hell do we see this ๐ฌ๐ก๐š๐๐จ๐ฐ? We must utilize other people as mirrors to help us decipher our masks. Your shadow self is the part of yourself that you dislike and project onto others.



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๐‹๐ž๐ญ ๐ฆ๐ž ๐›๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐š๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ฐ๐ง ๐š ๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ๐ฅ๐ž ๐Ÿ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ: โฃ

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  • Know it alls are usually hiding insecurities about their lack of knowledge. If you canโ€™t stand thinking of yourself as ignorant, then youโ€™re going to have a stronger visceral dislike when others portray ignorance or misunderstanding. Itโ€™s not that they did anything worthy of that judgement, itโ€™s that you are projecting your shadow onto them.โฃ

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  • Tough girls and boys are hiding their sensitivity. Hello friends. Everyone has painted me as hard as fuck. Why do I often get painted that way? Because itโ€™s an ego defense mechanism I have deep rooted to protect my overly, detrimentally so, sensitive empathetic soul. โฃ

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  • Excessive humor covers up peoples sadness. โฃ

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  • Perpetual starvation is to cover up the idea that you wonโ€™t be good enough unless you reach perfection. โฃ

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  • Binge eating is often a facade utilized for covering up lack of self care and nourishment in other areas. โฃ



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Bottom line is if youโ€™re truly seeking fulfillment and dismissal of bad โ€˜๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จโ€™ behavioral patterns then you will need to accept that you have parts of yourself that make you feel unwell examining and disturbing to accept. โฃ

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These shameful and frightening aspects of ourselves are elements of our shadow selves. The โ€˜๐˜ฅ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฌโ€™ side friends. ๐๐จ ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ข๐ฌ ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐ž๐ž ๐Ÿ๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ. The more we repress it the more it will bubble up into resentment and projection. โฃ

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Reading self-help books to improve yourself wonโ€™t help if you donโ€™t put in the damn work. The best way to put in the work is to understand your shadow self and identify when you are projecting it onto others. ๐“๐ก๐ข๐ฌ ๐œ๐š๐ง ๐›๐ž ๐š ๐ ๐ซ๐ž๐š๐ญ ๐ฐ๐š๐ฒ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ก๐ž๐ฅ๐ฉ ๐›๐ฎ๐ข๐ฅ๐ ๐ž๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ ๐š๐ง๐ ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐š๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ฐ๐ก๐ž๐ง ๐š๐ง๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐œ๐จ๐ฆ๐ž๐ฌ ๐š๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ก๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ข๐ฅ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.โฃ

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It is completely understandable that in order to become a civilized human requires an element of repression that fits into our structured societal idealโ€ฆ ๐๐ฎ๐ญ ๐œ๐ก๐ž๐œ๐ค ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ฌ; if we learn to live fractionated lives we will always be pissed and envious of others. Ignoring our needs and desires does nothing for our mental health. โฃ

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Self love and living authentically requires you to accept and embrace these โ€˜darkโ€™ desires. How do you expect to live a life of acceptance and love of who you are if you reject these parts? Spoiler: ๐˜๐Ž๐” ๐—ช๐Ž๐๐“. โฃ

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๐˜๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ง๐˜ณ๐˜ช๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜จ๐˜ฉ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ, ๐˜ค๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต ๐˜ซ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ต๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ช๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด, ๐˜ฃ๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ข ๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ด๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜บ ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ช๐˜ค ๐˜ฅ๐˜บ๐˜ฏ๐˜ข๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ด๐˜ฎ. ๐˜›๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ ๐˜ฌ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜บ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ด; ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ, ๐˜ข๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ท๐˜ช๐˜ฅ๐˜ถ๐˜ข๐˜ญ, ๐˜ช๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ด ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜บ ๐˜ค๐˜ช๐˜ณ๐˜ค๐˜ถ๐˜ฎ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ค๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ง. ๐˜‰๐˜ถ๐˜ต ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด๐˜ด ๐˜ค๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ง๐˜ฐ๐˜ณ๐˜ฎ ๐˜ข ๐˜ฎ๐˜ข๐˜ด๐˜ด, ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ด ๐˜ข ๐˜ณ๐˜ข๐˜จ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜จ ๐˜ฎ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ. ~ Carl Jung

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