How To Stop Being So Offended
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Many humans will go through their life with a relentless feeling of offense by what someone else ๐ฅ๐ช๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฎ. โฃ
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But get this... โฃ
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No one offends you. โฃ
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It's your ๐ฆ๐น๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด of ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ข๐ต, and ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ธ others ๐ด๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ act that do. โฃ
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No shame here as most people are easily offended before they dig deep and do the โworkโ. Doing the work requires us to look at our unhelpful behaviors with a microscope and decide deterministically to shift your beliefs that drive behaviors. โฃ
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๐ฆ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฎ๐๐ฐ๐ต ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ผ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ด๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐๐ฐ๐น๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฝ๐ถ๐๐๐น๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ป๐: โฃ
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That catecholamine rush when you discover someone isnโt acting in a way that you deem appropriateโ>oppress another humans autonomy via verbal or physical forceโ>self aggrandize and signal virtues about your moral superiority. โฃ
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Itโs a ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐ช๐ค๐ต๐ข๐ฃ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ค๐บ๐ค๐ญ๐ฆ of those who are easily offended. So watch yourself and others or this cyclical devolution. โฃ
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For example: You expected your significant other to do the dishes after dinner. They didnโt and now youโre pissed. They arenโt a horrible partner, but rather your expectations of how a perfect partner ๐ด๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ act is what is upsetting you. โฃ
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We are indoctrinated and conditioned via observed behaviors and messages from our environment, teachers, family, and media in general, on how life should play out. โฃ
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Where this goes sideways is no one was raised with the same set of beliefs, nor the same life experiences to shape their behaviors in a cookie cut fashion. โฃWe are all autonomous beings. โฃ
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What you think is being a ๐จ๐ฐ๐ฐ๐ฅ partner may not be the same for your significant other. โฃ
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๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ต๐ถ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฝ๐น๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐น๐๐ผ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐พ๐๐ถ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ถ๐น๐ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฒ: โฃ
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1.) Attempt to understand the source of your offenses.โฃ
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2.) Express your needs and desires without attacking or placing blame.โฃ
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3.) Accept people as they are, or change who you surround yourself with. All else is madness. We will never force anyone to see the world through our unique lens. โฃ
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