How To Stop Being So Offended




Are you easily offended?โฃ

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Many humans will go through their life with a relentless feeling of offense by what someone else ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฎ. โฃ

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But get this... โฃ

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No one offends you. โฃ

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It's your ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด of ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ข๐˜ต, and ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ others ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ act that do. โฃ

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No shame here as most people are easily offended before they dig deep and do the โ€œworkโ€. Doing the work requires us to look at our unhelpful behaviors with a microscope and decide deterministically to shift your beliefs that drive behaviors. โฃ

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๐—ฆ๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฐ๐—ต ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐˜๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ด๐—ฒ ๐—ฐ๐˜†๐—ฐ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฎ๐˜ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ฝ๐—ถ๐˜๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—บ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜†: โฃ

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That catecholamine rush when you discover someone isnโ€™t acting in a way that you deem appropriateโ€”>oppress another humans autonomy via verbal or physical forceโ€”>self aggrandize and signal virtues about your moral superiority. โฃ

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Itโ€™s a ๐˜ฑ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ๐˜ช๐˜ค๐˜ต๐˜ข๐˜ฃ๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ค๐˜บ๐˜ค๐˜ญ๐˜ฆ of those who are easily offended. So watch yourself and others or this cyclical devolution. โฃ

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For example: You expected your significant other to do the dishes after dinner. They didnโ€™t and now youโ€™re pissed. They arenโ€™t a horrible partner, but rather your expectations of how a perfect partner ๐˜ด๐˜ฉ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ญ๐˜ฅ act is what is upsetting you. โฃ

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We are indoctrinated and conditioned via observed behaviors and messages from our environment, teachers, family, and media in general, on how life should play out. โฃ

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Where this goes sideways is no one was raised with the same set of beliefs, nor the same life experiences to shape their behaviors in a cookie cut fashion. โฃWe are all autonomous beings. โฃ

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What you think is being a ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฐ๐˜ฅ partner may not be the same for your significant other. โฃ

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๐—–๐—ต๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ด๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ต๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜€๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฝ๐—น๐—ฒ ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐˜ ๐—ฎ๐—น๐˜€๐—ผ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—พ๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—ถ๐—น๐˜† ๐—ฝ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ: โฃ

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1.) Attempt to understand the source of your offenses.โฃ

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2.) Express your needs and desires without attacking or placing blame.โฃ

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3.) Accept people as they are, or change who you surround yourself with. All else is madness. We will never force anyone to see the world through our unique lens. โฃ


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