Are you easily offended?
Many humans will go through their life with a relentless feeling of offense by what someone else 𝘥𝘪𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮.
But get this...
No one offends you.
It's your 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 of 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵, and 𝘩𝘰𝘸 others 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 act that do.
No shame here as most people are easily offended before they dig deep and do the “work”. Doing the work requires us to look at our unhelpful behaviors with a microscope and decide deterministically to shift your beliefs that drive behaviors.
𝗦𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗶𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗰𝘆𝗰𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗲𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆:
That catecholamine rush when you discover someone isn’t acting in a way that you deem appropriate—>oppress another humans autonomy via verbal or physical force—>self aggrandize and signal virtues about your moral superiority.
It’s a 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘺𝘤𝘭𝘦 of those who are easily offended. So watch yourself and others or this cyclical devolution.
For example: You expected your significant other to do the dishes after dinner. They didn’t and now you’re pissed. They aren’t a horrible partner, but rather your expectations of how a perfect partner 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥 act is what is upsetting you.
We are indoctrinated and conditioned via observed behaviors and messages from our environment, teachers, family, and media in general, on how life should play out.
Where this goes sideways is no one was raised with the same set of beliefs, nor the same life experiences to shape their behaviors in a cookie cut fashion. We are all autonomous beings.
What you think is being a 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 partner may not be the same for your significant other.
𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝘀𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗯𝘂𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘀𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗾𝘂𝗶𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝗱𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆 𝗽𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲:
1.) Attempt to understand the source of your offenses.
2.) Express your needs and desires without attacking or placing blame.
3.) Accept people as they are, or change who you surround yourself with. All else is madness. We will never force anyone to see the world through our unique lens.
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