Pausing Before Responding Will Save Your Relationships
𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐦𝐞𝐝, 𝐏𝐀𝐔𝐒𝐄! It’s really important to remember to 𝘱𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 when you feel stressed or upset because those emotional states bring up a lot of subconscious conditioning, trauma, and experiences that significantly influence your perception of the situation. 𝐉𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐚 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐝𝐢𝐠𝐦 𝐚𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐢𝐭 𝐟𝐚𝐜𝐭. As Nietzsche stated, “𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰 𝘧𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘴, 𝘰𝘯𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴.” We all fall into the trap of thinking that our perceptions of a situation are really what's happening. Realizing that this occurs is the first step in correcting it. 𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐝𝐨: 1) Expose yourself to contrary information. You don’t need to agree with the alternative viewpoints, but you do benefit from hearing them and getting a better understanding of the entire picture. 2) Expand your education. Online classes are great for this one, especially because most involve some form of a financial investment that motivates you to complete the course. 3) Spend time with people who have been around longer than you and listen to what they have to say. Grandparents are decades more experience than you and nuggets of wisdom you could pick up. So, when you fell overwhelmed, pause and try to appreciate other ways of looking at the situation. Maybe you’ll be able to find a less stressful or more positive way of looking at things. Link to post mentioned in the video can be found here. The Power of Now can be found here.
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