๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐ข๐๐ ๐๐ข๐๐๐ข๐๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ญ๐ข๐๐ฌ? โฃ
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๐๐ณ๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ญ๐ช๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ฎ๐ฆ โ who tends to swing from reckless to zen as fuck, depending on the total load of stress? Do you tend to fall into a pattern of judgment and shame cycles, instead of analyzing behaviors objectively? โฃ
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๐ช๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐๐ฏ๐จ๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ ๐ฏ๐ข๐๐? Exercise? Use substances like alcohol? Eating? Hurting yourself? โฃ
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Do you cast judgement on others who cope with different methods from you? Many do... This is more of a questions beckoning reflection rather than judgment. โฃ
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Judging others, or yourself for having subpar coping mechanisms in life, is far from a productive use of time. We all judge others; itโs completely normal. But, itโs not always warranted. โฃ
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๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฒ๐จ๐ง๐ ๐ก๐๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฆ๐จ๐๐๐ฌ ๐จ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ฌ๐ญ๐ซ๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ฌ โ itโs not our place to judge them for their choices, especially since they often stem from ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด๐ค๐ช๐ฐ๐ถ๐ด ๐ฑ๐ณ๐ฐ๐จ๐ณ๐ข๐ฎ๐ฎ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ set during childhood and adolescence. Familial dynamics and generational pain patterns, as hard as we attempt to fight them, like to show up when we are under extreme stress. โฃ
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Instead of casting judgement on yourself and others โ> shift to that of showing ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง. โฃ
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You can delude yourself all you want by thinking that using exercise to cope is better than drinking, or becoming a workaholic, or binge eating, but they are all fundamentally the same. โฃโฃ
They are all methods to reduce the internal pain you feel when something stresses or saddens you. Sure, some can lead to harsh consequences, while others are more benign, but make no mistake; ๐ซ๐๐๐๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ฌ๐ข๐๐ ๐จ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ฌ๐๐ฅ๐ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐๐จ๐ซ๐ญ ๐๐ฅ๐ฐ๐๐ฒ๐ฌ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐๐ญ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐ง ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐จ ๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ฆ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ฅ๐ (๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐๐๐ข๐ฏ๐๐๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ญ๐ซ๐จ๐ฅ๐ฅ๐๐๐ฅ๐) ๐ฆ๐๐ญ๐ก๐จ๐. It does nothing to heal or manage the stress at a fundamental level. โฃ
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I have previously wrote a blog on this topic and gave some tips on redirecting these behaviors. You can find it here.โฃ
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