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What's Wrong With Trying To Save People?


๐—œ๐—ณ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ผ๐—ป๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฑ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด, ๐˜„๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ท๐˜‚๐—บ๐—ฝ ๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐—ฐ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—บ ๐—ถ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐—ฐ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—น๐—ฑ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜€๐˜„๐—ถ๐—บ?โฃ

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We all have been in that position before, ๐˜ธ๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ธ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ด๐˜ข๐˜ท๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ต ๐˜ต๐˜ฉ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฆ๐˜น๐˜ฑ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฏ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ๐˜ญ๐˜ท๐˜ฆ๐˜ด. If you keep sacrificing, then eventually there wonโ€™t be anything left of you to give. โฃ

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๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ณ๐—ฒ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ฏ๐—ฒ ๐—ฟ๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐—ฑ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚โ€™๐—น๐—น ๐—ฏ๐˜‚๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜๐—บ๐—ฒ๐—ป๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ผ๐˜€๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ธ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฝ ๐˜๐—ฟ๐˜†๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜๐—ผ ๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ฝ.โฃ

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You can only control yourself and your actions, ๐˜ด๐˜ฐ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ ๐˜ฏ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฆ๐˜ฅ ๐˜ต๐˜ฐ ๐˜ฃ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ข๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฆ ๐˜ฐ๐˜ง ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ญ๐˜ช๐˜ฎ๐˜ช๐˜ต๐˜ด ๐˜ข๐˜ฏ๐˜ฅ ๐˜จ๐˜ฐ๐˜ข๐˜ญ๐˜ด, and you need to communicate those boundaries with others. โฃ

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๐—œ๐˜ ๐—ถ๐˜€ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฑ๐—ฎ๐—บ๐—ป ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐˜€๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐—ฏ๐—ถ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜๐˜†.โฃ

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If you are used to saving others, then those boundaries may need to be extra firm in the beginning to minimize and to let others know that you can no longer save them at your own expense. โฃ

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Over time, you can start to be more flexible with your boundaries, communicating them to others but allowing for ๐˜ช๐˜ฏ๐˜ต๐˜ฆ๐˜ณ๐˜ณ๐˜ถ๐˜ฑ๐˜ต๐˜ช๐˜ฐ๐˜ฏ when appropriate.โฃ

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๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐—ผ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜€ ๐—ถ๐—ณ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—ปโ€™๐˜ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ, ๐˜€๐—ผ ๐˜€๐—ฎ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐—น๐—ณ ๐—ณ๐—ถ๐—ฟ๐˜€๐˜.

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