"My husband appears to become increasingly uncomfortable as I become more attractive. How can I handle this?"
Well, despite the current trend on social media to present oneself as less attractive under the guise of spiritual enlightenment, projected insecurities around the inevitable aging process, contemporary radical feminism, covert mate checking (check out my previous video on this topic), HAES, or whatever the prevailing trend is at—humans have always valued beauty.
Why?
Because beauty is intimately tied to the Divine nature in all of us. Beauty, both in its external manifestations and the pursuit of making oneself beautiful, resonates as a profound expression of divinity intertwined with the evolution of consciousness. It embodies the innate human aspiration to reflect the exquisite aesthetics found within the universe. Just as artists create masterpieces to mirror the splendor of creation, individuals seek to enhance their physical form not merely as vanity, but as an homage to the inherent divinity within.
This has nothing to do with age either. Not after reproduction is accomplished. This is often conflated. Yes, youth is beautiful. But to remain as beautiful as possible with aging, one needs to focus on the art of presentation and how one carries themselves.
This reverence for beauty arises from the higher self, an evolving consciousness that recognizes the interplay of the material and the spiritual. The endeavor to adorn oneself, whether through grooming, fashion, or self-care, becomes a sacred ritual—acknowledging that aligning with one's inner radiance harmonizes with the universal flow. As humanity's awareness deepens, the pursuit of beauty becomes an exploration of the divine, an intricate dance between self-expression and the transcendent symphony of existence.
The essential point is that the admiration of beauty is an age-old phenomenon, and its persistence is owed to deeply rooted evolutionary inclinations. Some individuals may consciously or unconsciously distance themselves from the concept of beauty to assert their superiority over other women, or demonstrate their commitment to their partners.
However, these moves are baseless; it stems from nothing other than ego-driven illusions.
It’s not based in reality.
The stealthy ego operates in the following ways when we reject beauty as *being superficial*: (1) fostering harmful feelings of shame and blame towards other women who embody beauty or value it, (2) placing excessive emphasis on appearance and physique rather than minimizing it, and (3) disregarding the genuine pleasure women feel when they present themselves to the world with overt seen beauty.
Anyway, to answer your question…
Enhancing your objective attractiveness will stir up insecurities in other women and men who have vested interest in you. Women project their insecurities via attempting to shame you by pressuring you to conform to their level of effort. Men tend to project their insecurities by attempting to exert control over their emotional investments.
It's crucial not to indulge in such behaviors.
Establish clear and unfu€kwithabke boundaries with your husband.
Remember, what we nurture is what thrives.
Your husband is doing something similar to what other women do when mate checking. You entered a relationship with him when both of you had similar sexual market value. As you increase your value through beauty, alongside his own stagnation, he will worry that you’ll move on without him whether he’s consciously aware of it or not.
This is what makes him uncomfortable.
He isn’t confident in what he brings to the relationship table with a more beautiful version of you.
If you desire to bring light to the situation do it.
Don’t let it fester under the surface.
Say something to him.
Don’t attack his masculinity—but instead approach it as an opportunity to empower your husband and encourage him to increase his own sexual market value through resource provisions (making more money), or aesthetics (hit the gym) or whatever else you both find valuable. Your own evolution can be a great catalyst for mutual growth.
Successful life partnership is essentially having these hard conversations over and over.
Hope that helps!
This is part of a series where I answer questions from followers on Instagram, the accompanying Reel can be found over there too!