Ever pondered how strong your relationship is? Will it crack with a minor slight? Well, check this, you can directly assess the strength of your relationship with this one question: How safe do you feel opening up to your partner? It’s a pretty important question because how safe you feel opening up to your partner and expressing your true authentic self is a great indicator of how strong your relationship is. Those fears we have about being authentic — fears of rejection, st

We’ve all worn masks to hide our true selves. It’s an evolutionary drive to desire belonging to groups and tribes, so it’s perfectly normal to try and “fake it” as a means of earning acceptance by the masses. That’s why many are shocked when someone steps outside of this paradigm and wears their true self exposed. But what exactly is the best option of navigating life? Manipulating others via acting in a way they want you to, or just doing you and letting your life long suppo

Everyone has an ability to “mentalize”, meaning the ability to understand the mental state, of oneself or others, that underlies overt behaviors. When we lose our shit on someone, we lose our metalizing ability, and we start to operate in black-and-white thinking. It’s completely normal, but it greatly impairs your ability to reason and problem-solve. You start thinking that your opinion and subjective experience is a correct interpretation of reality, rather than appreciatin

⁣What if I told you they aren’t. What if I told you that rudeness is just our ego creating 𝘷𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘴 and making us into 𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘴. ⁣

You don’t have to be perfect to create healthy love. That is a misconception that I was trapped into just a few years ago. I wanted nothing to do with any form of a traditional relationship, for the very reason I didn’t want to drag anyone into my storm of healing. I am a perfectionist by nature, and I wasn’t perfect yet. I still had a few bad habits to iron out. I still had some trauma to deal with. I still had things to learn. I was being extremely patient with myself while

Placing blame on another human is a damn sure sign that we are unable, or unwilling to look at our own guilt based responses. I realize this isn’t fun to hear. But alas the truth is never easy to hear. Someone else’s actions, distaste, and opinions of who you are as a human, has nothing to do with reality. Our ego works in a sneaky little way to keep us in judgements, hate, and attacks. Your ego works damn hard to deny your “sins”, guilts, insecurities, and fears. It will pro

We all seek it, desire it, and crave it. The sad truth is it eludes many of us and some never get to experience it in all of their days. Genuine unconditional love. In seeking this love, we often get caught up in the lust that permeates new relationships. That thrill and exhilaration of infatuation is hard to beat. Fuck I love that feeling. I get it. It’s yummy and there is by far nothing like it. However, there is a problem with solely seeking these fleeting chemical manifes

People like to play into the victim role with everything in life. Including in curating their happiness. Your boss is impossible to please, your wife is a bitch, and your teenage son doesn’t listen to to a word you say. Everyone else makes it impossible for you to be happy! But hey, check this; happiness isn’t ready made, it is a direct result of your actions and beliefs. I had years where I chased other humans approval and validation. If they didn’t think I was a worth while