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The Obesity Paradox

Sep 1, 2020
1 min

The Obesity Paradox

The obesity paradox is a fallacy born of poor research methodology. It all started with Katherine Flegal from the CDC who published research showing that the lowest mortality rates were not seen in Americans at a normal body weight, but in those who were overweight. This has been used as justification by many that being overweight or obese. Being modestly obese was protective against dying compared to being at a normal body weight. But check this; those observations don’t hol

Is Your Public Mask Ruining Your Mental Health?

Aug 28, 2020
1 min

Is Your Public Mask Ruining Your Mental Health?

We’ve all worn masks to hide our true selves. It’s an evolutionary drive to desire belonging to groups and tribes, so it’s perfectly normal to try and “fake it” as a means of earning acceptance by the masses. That’s why many are shocked when someone steps outside of this paradigm and wears their true self exposed. But what exactly is the best option of navigating life? Manipulating others via acting in a way they want you to, or just doing you and letting your life long suppo

Black & White Thinking Explained

Aug 27, 2020
1 min

Black & White Thinking Explained

Everyone has an ability to “mentalize”, meaning the ability to understand the mental state, of oneself or others, that underlies overt behaviors. When we lose our shit on someone, we lose our metalizing ability, and we start to operate in black-and-white thinking. It’s completely normal, but it greatly impairs your ability to reason and problem-solve. You start thinking that your opinion and subjective experience is a correct interpretation of reality, rather than appreciatin

How To Stop Victimizing Yourself

Jul 31, 2020
2 min

How To Stop Victimizing Yourself

Let’s talk about self victimization! It’s timely to bring this topic up because when the world is falling apart, people generally fall into two groups: those that self-victimize and those that take responsibility for their lives. Most people know what a “victim” is — someone who has been injured, insulted, or cheated. It’s completely normal to acknowledge and feel sad or angry about being a victim. We’ve all been victims of something countless times! The issue is when you liv

Healthy Conflict Resolution

Jul 24, 2020
2 min

Healthy Conflict Resolution

In healthy relationships communication is key. When we communicate our perspective, needs and desires — your partner can do their part in helping you feel seen and heard. Results of open communication is sporadic conflict. Conflict is an inevitable aspect of life, especially with those whom you love deeply, as those are the ones we feel most comfortable with being our raw selves. While conflict is absolutely part of a normal healthy relationship, it can also be a weak spot in

Do You Identify With Stereotypes?

Jun 10, 2020
1 min

Do You Identify With Stereotypes?

𝐋𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐨𝐫𝐲⁣ ⁣ Labeling theory states that 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘺 and 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘴 is influenced by the terms used to describe or classify them.⁣ ⁣ It’s in the same social bubble as 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐲 and 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐨𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠.⁣ ⁣ If you give yourself or other labels, then you and others start to 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺 mold into those labels.⁣ ⁣ For example, victimizing yourself! When you

True Altruism Is A Myth & Here Is Why

Jun 9, 2020
2 min

True Altruism Is A Myth & Here Is Why

𝗪𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐢𝐟 𝐰𝐞 𝐭𝐨𝐥𝐝 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐢𝐬𝐦 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐦𝐲𝐭𝐡?⁣ ⁣ 𝐕𝐢𝐫𝐭𝐮𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 —> The action or practice of publicly expressing opinions or sentiments intended to demonstrate one’s good character or moral correctness of the position on a particular issue.⁣ ⁣ 𝐈𝐭’𝐬 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐠𝐨. 𝐀𝐧𝐝 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐧’𝐭 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐢𝐭!⁣ ⁣ When you virtue signal or talk about all the 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘦𝘥𝘴 you do, it is purely as a means of satisfying your

You Don't Need To Heal To Earn Love

Jun 4, 2020
1 min

You Don't Need To Heal To Earn Love

𝗪𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘂𝗺𝗮; 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗼𝗳 𝘂𝘀.⁣ ⁣ But, how many of you have pulled away from friends, family, or loved ones thinking that you need to be on your own to 𝘧𝘪𝘹 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘵?⁣ ⁣ How many of you have decided that you can’t put yourself out there and be with another human until you are 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵?⁣ ⁣ 𝗡𝗲𝘄𝘀 𝗳𝗹𝗮𝘀𝗵! Becoming intimately familiar with our own and our 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘯𝘦𝘳’𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘷𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘦𝘴 is a profound gift and

Is trauma Sabotaging Your Efforts To Live Your Best Life?

Apr 22, 2020
3 min

Is trauma Sabotaging Your Efforts To Live Your Best Life?

Trauma is a 𝘣𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩, and we all just wish it would go away. It’s a subject that many of us don’t fully understand which leads to misappropriate labeling and expression of our behaviors. Once we understand what and how it’s impacting our lives, we can start to untangle it from our habits. ⁣ ⁣ Trauma is stored in our implicit memory, or subconscious memory, where it is able to show up in our thoughts and life without us consciously knowing it. This is different from our expl

What Do Strong Internal Boundaries Look Like?

Apr 10, 2020
2 min

What Do Strong Internal Boundaries Look Like?

An internal boundary is a 𝐥𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐭 we set with our self, regarding our own values. What we think is right or wrong; correct or incorrect.

Stress Manifests In Multiple Ways. What Do You Use To Numb It?

Apr 8, 2020
2 min

Stress Manifests In Multiple Ways. What Do You Use To Numb It?

𝘈𝘳𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘮𝘦 — who tends to swing from reckless to zen as fuck, depending on the total load of stress? Do you tend to fall into a pattern

Why Are People Such Dicks?

Mar 30, 2020
1 min

Why Are People Such Dicks?

⁣What if I told you they aren’t. What if I told you that rudeness is just our ego creating 𝘷𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘴 and making us into 𝘷𝘪𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘴. ⁣

Radical Acceptance

Mar 26, 2020
2 min

Radical Acceptance

It’s a method that you can use whenever you are caught in the midst of a negative situation, be it with another human or current events.

COVID & Gym Closures

Mar 23, 2020
1 min

COVID & Gym Closures

It’s an understandable measure to try and minimize exposure within the population, but many people are really taking a hit from it.

The Infamous Dirty Word: Narcissist

Mar 7, 2020
2 min

The Infamous Dirty Word: Narcissist

The person portrays a mask of arrogant superiority in an attempt to convince everyone that they are a 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘢𝘭 𝘴𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘧𝘭𝘢𝘬𝘦.

Another Persons Happiness Is None Of Your Business

Sep 8, 2019
4 min

Another Persons Happiness Is None Of Your Business

People like to play into the victim role with everything in life. Including in curating their happiness. Your boss is impossible to please, your wife is a bitch, and your teenage son doesn’t listen to to a word you say. Everyone else makes it impossible for you to be happy! But hey, check this; happiness isn’t ready made, it is a direct result of your actions and beliefs. I had years where I chased other humans approval and validation. If they didn’t think I was a worth while

What To Do About Trauma Sabotaging Your Diet

Jul 8, 2019
18 min

What To Do About Trauma Sabotaging Your Diet

You probably have impulse control issues. You probably crave all the foods that keep you from your goal body. You probably do things that make you think you have no control. To what extent you do these things… well that varies from person to person. Let’s discuss some of our brain structures and how they play into our uncontrollable desires and our habit formation. As we have evolved, so have our brain structures. We have a little part of our brain called the primitive brain

The Road To Excess

May 16, 2019
2 min

The Road To Excess

The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom...You never know what is enough until you know what is more than enough. Moderation is a bitch for some. I tend to operate best on extremes and have been this way since I was a little. I’m most definitely an all or nothing type with everything: Friendship Love Work Exercise Diet Loyalty Learning I credit this personality trait to my ‘wisdom’ in life. I only know what I know — because I know what is too much, and I have pushed t

The Illusion Of Reality

May 16, 2019
2 min

The Illusion Of Reality

I sometimes fall into the trap of thinking that my perception of a situation is reality for everyone. Faulty information and past life experiences jade my mind sometimes. I am human. Realizing that this occurs is the first step in correcting it. Once we become aware we can shift our thoughts to looking at everything objectively and without attachment. So how do we do this? Numero uno; we need to untangle where our perceptions originate. They are primarily formed via our signi

Numbing Out Feels Delicious

Apr 25, 2019
5 min

Numbing Out Feels Delicious

No one wants to be uncomfortable or feel pain. We all desire those feel good feels. I have several ways I attempt to make my life more acceptable, and methods I use to numb out. My brain just goes on autopilot and a force comes over me. It’s really beautiful how the mind attempts to protect us from hurt and pain. But check this: the exact methods our brain uses to numb out, cause more pain long term — all in an attempt to reduce immediate pain. I don’t know about you, but I’m

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