Keep your eyes on these 5 red flags that your relationship is unhealthy. 1.) Your expectations are different. It’s normal to have differing beliefs in life, but if those differences exist in big issues like religion, politics, or your child’s education, then you’re probably not a good match. These types of differences in beliefs are a recipe for long-term arguments and fights. 2.) Your expectations are ridiculous. You cannot control other people and having such expectations i
What controls your successes and failures? Those with a strong internal locus of control believe that things in their life happen primarily because of their own actions. Those with a strong external locus of control tend to blame or praise external factors for what happens to them. The goal is to start shifting your sense of control to be internal rather than external. Rather than thinking most things are not within your control, that there is nothing you can do about your fu
𝐋𝐞𝐭’𝐬 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸 𝐚𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐮𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬! The way you communicate with people can really 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬 how well your message comes across. One of the biggest issues many people face is they can’t separate their ideas from who they are as a human. So, whenever you challenge someone’s beliefs, they perceive it as an attack against themselves. Religion, diet, and politics are all great examples of this. People attach eth
𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐝! Our minds have routines and habits and perceptions that make changing your behaviors and beliefs hard as fuck. If you engage on the journey of change, then you need to be aware of your mind’s ways to sabotage your efforts: 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐝𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐭, 𝐚𝐧𝐱𝐢𝐞𝐭𝐲, 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐮𝐬𝐢𝐨𝐧. When we decide it’s time to step up to the plate and shift our self sabotaging behaviors, the mind will fabricate all sorts of self doubt, anxiety, and confusion.
𝐋𝐚𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐨𝐫𝐲 Labeling theory states that 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧-𝘪𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘺 and 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘴 is influenced by the terms used to describe or classify them. It’s in the same social bubble as 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟-𝐟𝐮𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐩𝐡𝐞𝐜𝐲 and 𝐬𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐨𝐭𝐲𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠. If you give yourself or other labels, then you and others start to 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺 mold into those labels. For example, victimizing yourself! When you
In order to overcome your self-doubt, you need to do three things: Ask yourself the following questions: What is the cause of the doubt? Are you afraid of failure? Afraid of change? Why are you doubting yourself? Call out your inner critic. The way you feel isn’t reality, it’s a perspective. You have accomplished a lot in your life and you need to remind yourself of those positive aspects of the situation. Push through the doubt and move forward. You never truly fail unless y