Faulty Beliefs Can Ruin Your Life: Here's How To Fix Them
𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗯𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗸𝗱𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳𝘀
𝘉𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘧𝘴 are 𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴 about how life is, should be, or could be codified into rules.
In short, a belief is an assumed truth; not to be confused with actual objective truths. They become self imposed rules that filter and shape your thinking about what is and isn’t possible. They have little to do with actual truth.
The primary issue with having these strong beliefs is that over time they turn into 𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘤 𝘳𝘶𝘭𝘦𝘴 that operate 𝘶𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘴𝘤𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺. Which means you become completely unaware of them, yet they still guide your thoughts and actions; much like being on 𝘢𝘶𝘵𝘰-𝘱𝘪𝘭𝘰𝘵.
This could make life easy or completely wreck you.
The truth is, many of the beliefs that we adopt are 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨 and 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘥𝘶𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦—and we don't even know it.
See why it’s so important to inventory this shit?
𝐒𝐨 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐝𝐨 𝐰𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐛𝐞𝐥𝐢𝐞𝐟𝐬?
Some of them you created yourself based on your 𝘦𝘹𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴 and 𝘰𝘣𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 of the world.
They started out just as working assumptions about how parts of the world are, but over time they became hardened expectations which act like a lens and filter through in which you view and interpret the world.
Although we do create some of our beliefs ourselves, many we simply adopt from others or are thrusted upon us by society.
We all absorb our cultural norms at some frequency but we often forget to question whether these are serving us or limiting us.
Many people hold steadfast onto their beliefs all their life. Never questioning anything. So, their results in whatever don’t change much over the years. Hence why humans are so damn predictable. Karma? Ya, no. You’re just never evaluating your beliefs.
𝗔 𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝘁𝗶𝗱𝗯𝗶𝘁: people can rarely pin me into a “this is who she is” because I’m constantly reevaluating my core beliefs. If you want to hit people with a plot twist, reevaluate your driver—> 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘦𝘧𝘴.
The question you need to be asking yourself, I mean if you truly want to live an autonomous life—is who could you become if you change your limiting beliefs? What would you do? What would you have? How far could you go with this life?
𝗚𝗼𝗹𝗱𝗲𝗻 𝗿𝘂𝗹𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝘄𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀 & 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗳𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘂𝗻𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗯𝗲𝗹𝗶𝗲𝗳 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗱𝗶𝗴𝗺𝘀:
1.) Identify any behaviors or beliefs that often disrupt your higher values and intentions. How do we do this? Think of something you struggle with relentlessly. Ask yourself why the situation is difficult for you? Then analyze the belief (e.g., ask where it came from, if it’s indoctrination without merit, if it’s really true, if it’s helping you to reach mental security, etc.) and determine what a more empowering belief would be in that situation.
2.) Identify a recurring situation that pisses you off. Write down the belief that causes you to react negatively (hint: there is always a belief underlying a feeling). Take a few minutes to think about or write down the reasons the belief is false, or how it could be an illusion of the mind.
3.) Practice entering the situation with the new perspective over and over again, until you embody the new belief. All mental habits can be modified. We are not a tree that is rooted; we can adapt and move. Thoughts are the same as we can uproot them.
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