When we’re looking at a person’s life on the internet, we’re only seeing their highlight reel.
So please consider this 𝘦𝘹𝘵𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦, but 𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘤 and 𝘳𝘢𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭, idea when typing up your comment: 𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗮𝘆, 𝘀𝗮𝘆 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴.
Everyone knows I feel like a moulting bird over here… I make jokes often about this and really I’m not emotionally disturbed by it — it’s amusing at this point due to my life history. But people still feel the 𝘯𝘦𝘦𝘥 to point out on one or another social platform how they find my looks unattractive, and yes, this happens on the daily.
I am more concerned with how this is impacting other ladies during this time, as many have not had the capacity, or time to renegotiate their beliefs around their body until now.
You rarely know the nitty gritty details of a situation when commenting on a person's appearance. Therefore, a lot of body judgment commentary is made from assumptions about a person's well-being and health. You know they must be uber happy to be hot, so you must take them down ten pegs with your passive aggressive comments… right? 𝗪𝗲𝗹𝗹, 𝗻𝗼. You just cannot offer a complete opinion without all the details and this goes with much of life, not just this.
Women go through great lengths to look their best on a regular basis. It is really not valid if you feel it is worth it or not, or if you think it’s vain, or overly narcissistic.
This pandemic has completely interfered with that. Do not comment on a women’s body or looks right now.
𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵; 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄:
Her relationship with food
Her relationship with her body
Her stress load and coping mechanisms
Her history of disordered behaviors
Her self-esteem
You don’t know anything about the women you judge during this time of critical re-evaluation for self-worth.
You never know how someone feels about a part of their body, and calling attention to it could make them uncomfortable and spiral them into some extreme 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘤𝘰𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘴𝘮 they thought they had mastered. We are all under extreme stress currently and I would like to encourage everyone to offer compassion instead of your 𝗲𝗴𝗼𝗰𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗰 𝗼𝗽𝗶𝗻𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀.
Also let’s get one thing clear… Don’t fucking ask if they’re sick, or tired, or pregnant.
It might seem 𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘤, but doing so actually has judgmental undertones. Often, when women are asked this it’s simply because they’re not wearing makeup or are a large dinner.
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